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Categorie: Amor
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by Terry Bragg

Fear of failure is one of the greatest fears people have. Fear of failure is closely related to fear of criticism and fear of rejection. Successful people overcome their fear of failure. Fear incapacitates unsuccessful people.

The Law of Feedback states: there is no failure; there is only feedback. Successful people look at mistakes as outcomes or results, not as failure. Unsuccessful people look at mistakes as permanent and personal.

Buckminster Fuller wrote, “Whatever humans have learned had to be learned as a consequence only of trial and error experience. Humans have learned only through mistakes.” Most people self-limit themselves. Most people do not achieve a fraction of what they are capable of achieving because they are afraid to try—because they are afraid they will fail. Take these steps to overcome your fear of failure and move yourself forward to getting the result you desire:

Step One: Take action. Bold, decisive action. Do something scary. Fear of failure immobilizes you. To overcome this fear, you must act. When you act, act boldly. Action gives you the power to change the circumstances or the situation. You must overcome the inertia by doing something. Dr. Robert Schuller asks, “What would you do if you knew you could not fail?” What could you achieve? Be brave and just do it. If it doesn’t work out the way you want, then do something else. But DO SOMETHING NOW.

Step Two: Persist. Successful people just don’t give up. They keep trying different approaches to achieving their outcomes until they finally get the results they want. Unsuccessful people try one thing that doesn’t work and then give up. Often people give up when they are on the threshold of succeeding.

Step Three: Don’t take failure personally. Failure is about behavior, outcomes, and results. Failure is not a personality characteristic. Although what you do may not give you the result you wanted, it doesn’t mean you are a failure. Because you made a mistake, doesn’t mean that you are a failure.

Step Four: Do things differently. If what you are doing isn’t working, do something else. There is an old saying, “if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you always got.” If you’re not getting the results you want, then you must do something different. Most people stop doing anything at all, and this guarantees they won’t be successful.

Step Five: Don’t be so hard on yourself. Hey, if nothing else, you know what doesn’t work. Failure is a judgement or evaluation of behavior. Look at failure as an event or a happening, not as a person.

Step Six: Treat the experience as an opportunity to learn. Think of failure as a learning experience. What did you learn from the experience that will help you in the future? How can you use the experience to improve yourself or your situation? Ask yourself these questions:

(1) What was the mistake?

(2) Why did it happen?

(3) How could it have been prevented?

(4) How can I do better next time?

Then use what you learned from the experience to do things differently so you get different results next time. Learn from the experience or ignore it.

Step Seven: Look for possible opportunities that result from the experience. Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich, says “every adversity, every failure and every heartache carries with it the seed of an equivalent or a greater benefit.” Look for the opportunity and the benefit.

Step Eight: Fail forward fast. Tom Peters, the management guru, says that in today’s business world, companies must fail forward fast. What he means is that the way we learn is by making mistakes. So if we want to learn at a faster pace, we must make mistakes at a faster pace. The key is that you must learn from the mistakes so you make so you don’t repeat them.

Although we all make mistakes, fear of failure doesn’t have to cripple you. As self-help author Susan Jeffers says, “feel the fear and do it anyway.”

Categorie: Din putul gandirii
Fără comentarii (Citit de 954 ori)

Avem timp pentru toate.
Sa dormim, sa alergam in dreapta si-n stanga,
sa regretam c-am gresit si sa gresim din nou,
sa-i judecam pe altii si sa ne absolvim pe noi insine,
avem timp sa citim si sa scriem,
sa corectam ce-am scris, sa regretam ce-am scris,
avem timp sa facem proiecte si sa nu le respectam,
avem timp sa ne facem iluzii si sa rascolim prin
cenusa lor mai tarziu.
Avem timp pentru ambitii si boli,
sa invinovatim destinul si amanuntele,
avem timp sa privim norii, reclamele sau un accident
oarecare,
avem timp sa ne-alungam intrebarile,
sa amanam raspunsurile,
avem timp sa sfaramam un vis si sa-l reinventam,
avem timp sa ne facem prieteni, sa-i pierdem,
avem timp sa primim lectii si sa le uitam dupa-aceea,
avem timp sa primim daruri si sa nu le-ntelegem.
Avem timp pentru toate.

Nu e timp doar pentru putina tandrete.
Cand sa facem si asta murim.

(versiunea completă)

Am invatat…

de Octavian Paler

Categorie: Din putul gandirii
2 Comentarii (Citit de 1396 ori)

Love is a basic dimension of human experience that is variously conveyed as a sense of tender affection, an intense attraction, the foundation of intimacy and good interpersonal chemistry, willing self-sacrifice on behalf of another, and as an ineffable sense of affinity or connection to nature, other living beings, or even that which is unseen. It manifests itself in feelings, emotion, behavior, thoughts, perception and attitude. It influences, underlies and defines major patterns in interpersonal relationships and self-identification… Lago Di Garda, Italia, 2006.

Categorie: Evadari
6 Comentarii (Citit de 3277 ori)

Zice ea: Am vrut să-ţi spun doar că mă bucură faptul că pe tine te bucură faptul că eu mă gândesc la tine. Rămâne să văd dacă pe mine mă bucură faptul că mă gândesc la tine… Dar în fond şi la urma urmei, dacă aşa simt eu, asta e… doar n-o să-mi refulez gândurile doar pentru că poate nu-i bine. Asta e şi asa rămâne.

Cam atât doream să-ţi spun…

Categorie: Amor
2 Comentarii (Citit de 1600 ori)

Nu ştiu ce să scriu. Sunt fără cuvinte. Aş vrea să critic convorbirea telefonică de vineri seara. N-am cuvinte pentru că unii ar întoarce cuvintele în folosul lor, le-am avut vineri şi au făcut numai rău… Acum sunt pe deal, e seară şi e aşa frumos încât, hmm… mă întreb de ce nu am închis telefonul. Şi n-am cuvinte…

Categorie: Nemultumiri
8 Comentarii (Citit de 1278 ori)

There’s something I can’t hide
Never felt this way before
It’s in the way you smile
The way you cry
Cause I’ve never felt so sure

You opened up my door
To a world I left behind
Then you left me with the sound of your voice
Telling me that I am the one

And that’s the moment I miss you
That’s the moment I miss your touch the most
I wanna let go
I just have to make sure
We’ll make it through

The moment I miss you (…)

(Evan – The moment I miss you)

Categorie: Amor
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Categorie: Nemultumiri
2 Comentarii (Citit de 2178 ori)

i had nine lives but i lost all of them
and ive been seaching the night
and ive been seaching in the rain
i tried to find them
but they disappeared
they walked away they dressed in black
they left my side and all i say
is that i wasted time
when i looked for them
for now i know that things gone past
are never to be found again
no never never again
i had nine lives
but i lost all of them

i had a plan
but i never finished it
and ive been searching for the thought
and ive been searching in a haze
i try all days
to remember it
but now the blueprint in my mind has gone
my mind forgot the colour of direction
and my eyes they see the hands
that could of built
that could have constructed the empire in my mind

the empire
i’ll never find
i had a plan
but that was where it ended

(Cat Empire – The Lost Song)

Categorie: Nemultumiri
Fără comentarii (Citit de 1507 ori)

Categorie: Evadari
2 Comentarii (Citit de 2129 ori)